3 Best Ways To Resolve a Fight With Your Wife
1. Take the first step.
After you fight with your wife, it is necessary for you to be the one who goes to her first and makes things right. If the fight happened over the phone, this might start in the form of a text saying how much you appreciate her. No matter what, it needs to lead into apologizing to her face-to-face.
During a fight with your wife, you need to keep in your mind that you made a commitment to her for the rest of your life. Marriage is a marathon, not a sprint. Taking the first step toward healing the relationship after a fight shows you care about your wife more than about being right.
2. Work to understand her.
Sometimes a fight occurs just because she wants to talk. However, you just try to solve her problem instead of listening and trying to understand what she is going through. You care more about getting the discussion over with than understanding what her feelings are behind it.
Let her share what’s on her mind. Listen and after that ask her some questions about how it makes her feel. This shows that you respect what she is going through and that she has value. This can also lead to your underlying goal, which is to solve the problem! You can’t learn how to heal a relationship after a fight unless you commit to doing your best to understand what your wife is going through and how it makes her feel.
3. Apologize to her instead of saying you’re sorry.
A true apology comes from the heart and tells your wife that you realize you were wrong. After you apologize to your wife, ask her to forgive you. By asking her for mercy, you’re bridging the gap after the fight—you’re making an effort to make amends.
This is not easy for us to do, but we need to put our pride aside and do what’s best for our marriages.
