There is no right or wrong age to find love. After all, to love or to be loved is one of the most beautiful emotions one could experience. Also, there are different things people want from love in different phases of their lives. When we are young, we want love to be exciting and thrilling but we expect it to be steady and mature once we grow up. If you are a man in your forties looking for a life partner, here are a few things women in the same age bracket really want in their partners.
Each woman in their 40s has a unique story, but all these women have one thing in common…
They now know exactly what they want from their man.
If you want to find out what that is and how you can please your woman, check out eight tips below.
1. Honesty
Every age group of women look for honesty in men. However, mature women value it even more because they have no time to waste. They want men to be emotionally honest with them. It’s not worth playing games with someone who twists the truth. A woman who has been down this road before will not bargain with childish behavior such as dishonesty.
2. Be her emotional support
Most women in today’s world are independent and can support themselves. But this is even more true for women over 40.
These women don’t need a man to help them with finances or any other basic needs. Simply having a car isn’t going to impress a woman in her 40s like it would when she was in high school.
So what does she need you for?
The answer is emotional support.
She needs you to be her rock, to be the person she confides in.
In order to do this, you have to pay attention to her preferences. Does she like to have alone time if she’s feeling upset or would she rather go out for dinner as a distraction?
Each woman is going to have a preferred way to calm down and de-stress. If you can be part of the way she de-stresses (even if that means leaving her alone for a little while) then she’s going to want to keep you around forever. She might even fall in love with you!
3. No comparison with younger women
Women value a man who sees life the way they do, who sees them for who they are and what they have to offer. However, some men in their 40’s and even beyond want a young “trophy” to show off to the world. On the other hand, some men do prefer the love of a mature woman who knows how to handle her man. They recognize that women of a similar age are the women they can relate to the most.
4. Women over 40 need you to listen
Women over 40 need a good listener. In general, women like to connect with others via communication more than men do.
This is why women can chat for hours at the dinner table while men prefer to bond by sitting beside each other watching the football game. Since most women get a lot more practice communicating, it means they are hyper-aware if you’re listening or not.
If you look off to the distance or start working on something while she’s talking, she’s going to notice. She’s going to see that you’re not giving her your full attention.
Being a good listener means focusing completely on what she is saying. It means engaging her by asking questions or making comments. Do your best to understand what she’s saying.
Women over 40 have a lot of positive traits. They are intelligent, established and have a lot of life experience. But one thing you need to know is that these women have little patience for a man who doesn’t understand the basics of human connection.
The basics of human connection include listening and communicating.
5. They do not want romance 24/7
Quality romance to a woman in her 40’s is attentiveness and time. They want to feel the connection and want to be wooed through acts of consideration, respect, and support. For them, it’s much more romantic and meaningful when a man takes the time to learn how they like their tea rather than to receive flowers.
6. Women over 40 want a trustworthy man
Women over 40 are tired of the games. They appreciate honesty and straightforwardness.
If you can prove to her that you are not playing games and that you can be trusted, she will reward you with a lot of freedom. This is because women over 40 are not only tired of games, they also do not want to keep tabs on their man.
Women over 40 understand that relationships are built on trust. So being overbearing or overreacting is not something she will gravitate towards unless you give her a reason to.
One way to establish that you’re trustworthy is to answer her questions directly. If you don’t want to meet her family or her kids yet just tell her. If you aren’t ready to move in just saying you’re not ready is going to make her respect you a lot.
You can also give her access to your side of life. This means she can check your phone, borrow your computer and hang out with your friends. If you don’t have a problem sharing your life with her, she will be confident that you are taking the relationship seriously.
She doesn’t want to keep tabs on you; she just wants to know that you’re not hiding anything.
7. Take interest in her current life
A woman in her 40s has had a lot of life to live. She will have an established group of friends, a good career, possibly kids and various hobbies. She’s happy with her current life.
If you want to be an addition to this life of hers, you have to respect what she has spent years building.
This means respecting the time she needs to take care of everything. If she needs to cancel a date because of her kids or her career, you need to understand that those things in her life are going to come before you, at least for a while.
So the more you show her that you can be a positive addition to her life and not a waste of her time, the more she is going to take time to be with you.
So if you can take a back seat to her current life in the beginning, you’ll find that she moves you up her “priority ladder” very quickly.
