Last year, my daughter-in-law gave birth to twins, and from the very beginning, I gave my full support.
No matter how exhausted I felt, I would rush over whenever help was needed—whether it was feeding the babies, rocking them to sleep, or just giving her a chance to rest.
I truly believed I was doing it out of love and genuine care, as any family member should.
I never sought gratitude or recognition; I simply wanted to be there for them.
However, yesterday, I came across a Facebook post that made me feel heartbroken.
My daughter-in-law shared a photo of me with the twins and wrote something that made me feel small and unappreciated.
She said I was “always around,” almost as though I were interfering rather than helping.
After reading those words, I felt misunderstood and taken for granted, as though my efforts had been seen in the wrong light.
Rather than reacting with anger, I chose to talk to her calmly.
During our conversation, she opened up and admitted that she had been overwhelmed and felt pressured, and her post was more about her own stress than about me.
She hadn’t realized how her words might hurt me.
I explained how much I cared and how my only intention had been to make life easier for her and the twins.
By the end of our talk, she said sorry sincerely, and we both understood each other better.
We agreed that open communication is more important than silent assumptions.
I learned that even love needs healthy boundaries, and she learned that gratitude can strengthen relationships.
Today, when I hold my grandchildren with a lighter heart, I remind myself: family is not about being perfect—it’s about growing with love and understanding.
